In our society, we are taught to share the same ideals and overall goal of life. We’re given a definition of success, and it’s typically looked like this:
Go to college. Get a good job with benefits. Drive a nice car. Live in a nice house. Have a few kids. Contribute to 401K. Save for retirement.
If that is your idea of the perfect life, then by all means you should work towards achieving it.
The internal conflict comes when we find ourselves working towards something that we’re not passionate about, don’t believe in, and don’t even want.
So why would we strive for what we don’t want?
If we haven’t taken the time to think it out, we probably aren’t even aware that we’re living someone else’s ideal life.
Think about it. When’s the last time you sat quietly somewhere and dreamed about what your life could be like? What brings you true joy? What makes you excited, inspired, passionate?
It’s a simple yet crucial exercise. If we don’t create our lives with intention, we’re going to end up somewhere we never desired to go.
Life is busy. Jobs, school, kids, significant others, friends, family, and all of our other responsibilities fill our lives. The days pass quickly. They’ll escape us if we’re not intentional about running them.
It was happening to me. I was weighed down by business. I had so much on my plate that at the end of the day (or night, depending on what kind of day it was) all I wanted to do was crash. I didn’t have time to dream. I wasn’t making space to be by myself, to check in, to make sure I was being fulfilled and living the kind of life I want.
For me, the disconnect was my work life. It’s difficult to notice that you’re not satisfied with your work when you’re good at something and pretty interested in it but don’t love it. I’ve been working in marketing for the past few years. I like marketing and I’m interested in it but I’m not passionate about it.
So I took the time to explore the deep parts of my mind and think, dream and imagine what type of work I’d really love to do. Work that I’d be proud of, that would fill me up. I wrote down what a fulfilling life would look like. What I’m most happy doing, what kind of environment I like the most, what makes me feel at peace.
The answer lay there on the paper. Write a book. I’ve always wanted to write a book but I thought it was a lofty goal, one that I could work on in my 40s or 50s. It wasn’t until I sat and thought about it that I realized that I can start writing a book now.
So what is it that you want to achieve? What are the secret dreams laying in your heart that have been dormant for too long?
Too many times we rank comfort and security above fulfillment. This is not the key to a happy life.
Even if you’re afraid to go there, or think you don’t have enough time to work on it, just try it out. Flip a notebook open and start dreaming there on the paper. What if there were no “buts”? What if the sky really was the limit?
What if you stepped into your purpose, making a maximum positive impact on the world, living a big life, being the best you that you can be?
Don’t you think it would be worth it?
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